Be Smart About Everything: Grandma’s Sayings

My Grandma's Wise Hands

My Grandma’s Wise Hands (Photo credit: Pmltadeo)

“Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face”


This along with so many others was one of my grandmother’s favorite sayings. It is also a very common idiom that recommends that you should get an understanding of this point. You know it’s a common group of words that makes a point.

Translation of what this means is: Don’t be dumb enough to punish you or to set yourself at a disadvantage in order to get back at or do harm or seek revenge towards an adversary/opposing party or the person you are angry with.

Basically saying that this quote is a warning to don’t act out in a way in which your own anger or spite will result in your own hurt, loss or even find yourself in a much worse predicament then your intended victim.

There are many people who tend to get into these patterns of self-destruction, so they mistakenly make their own situations even worse. Here lies the tendency of a pitiful self rationalization of a thing that does not work at all. Sometimes it is better to swallow your pride/ego than to continue down this spiraling path which ends up spoiling everything. This is the kind of stuff that happens in the heat of the moment, in the middle of a heated debate or argument or discussion when all rationalization is thrown out of the window and we don’t stop and think about what the consequences will be in the end.

I believe it is so much wiser to try to resolve conflicts in a healthy way and we do this by learning how to deal with common emotions such as anger, hurt, sadness, frustration, heartbreak, and disappointment. If you cut off your nose to spite your face, it makes it all the more impossible to work on solving any type of problem.

Finding new ways to communicate feelings is vital, so it’s possible to focus on improving relationships rather than trying to be right or prove a point that would be meaningless once the damage is done. I think it’s important to learn how to accept that we all make mistakes and then the next step in healing would be to focus on strategies to get a better understanding of the issues instead of trying to teach someone a lesson, or trying to get back at them at your own expense. Karma is real. So instead of being a jerk or behaving dumb, let’s just chose to be smart about all issues in life. Examine why we do the things we do, analyze it and come up with smart solutions.

So as Gramps is famous for saying

“think before you act, don’t act before you think”

And…. do not be

“SOS” (Stuck On Stupid)

Be smart about things is what Grandma used to say…..


And so here’s a little music to go along with my point so take a moment if you like to check them out. I enjoy listening to the wonderful music by Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes as they sing Wake Up Everybody, Marvin Gaye singing What’s Going On, The Isley Brothers singing Fight the Power and last but not least the music of Public Enemy who is a hip hop group making their point in a different way. Hopefully, you can see things from their different point of view.



HaroldMelvinBlueNotes2.45thSFF.WDC.10July2011 (Photo credit: Elvert Barnes)

I am kind of partial to the group “Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes” as they sing their lyrics

“The world won’t get no better if we just let it be, we have to change it.”


Wake Up, Everybody!

~Harold Melvin And The Bluenotes~



Cover of "What's Going on"

Cover of What’s Going on


“Marvin Gaye: What’s Going On”


Marvin Gaye performing in concert during the 1...

Marvin Gaye performing in concert during the 1970s. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


10 - The Isley Brothers

10 – The Isley Brothers (Photo credit: Bradford Timeline)


The Isley Brothers Sing: Fight the Power (We have to stand up and fight)


Public Enemy

Public Enemy (Photo credit: mehan)


Public Enemy: Fight the Power (Don’t Believe the Hype)


Cover of "Do the Right Thing [Blu-ray]"

Cover of Do the Right Thing [Blu-ray]



I like to call my self a happy soul, a daydreamer and have a heart of a gypsy. Love to use my imagination. And trying out new things. Life can be so wonderful and enjoyable when I am being positive and releasing.
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6 Responses to Be Smart About Everything: Grandma’s Sayings

  1. Divya says:

    My grandma says this Hindi phrase all the time:”Adhajal gagari chalakat jaay.” In English this means:”Half-filled pot goes spilling out water” and the meaning of it is:Those with little knowledge keep showing it.Those who know all are calm or silent.Your grandma is very wise.I think grandmas have a thing for that.😃

  2. Karyl says:

    thanks for all the good tunes! like the wisdom too!

  3. seeker says:

    Of course Grandma is right. Thanks for the music.

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