“Don’t cut off your nose to spite your face”
This along with so many others was one of my grandmother’s favorite sayings. It is also a very common idiom that recommends that you should get the understanding of this point. You know it’s a common group of words that makes a point.
Translation of what this means is: Don’t be dumb enough to punish you, or to set yourself at a disadvantage in order to get back at or do harm or seek revenge towards an adversary/opposing party or person you are angry with.
Basically saying that this quote is a warning to don’t act out in a way in which your own anger or spite will result in your own hurt, loss or even to find yourself in a much worse predicament then your intended victim.
There are many people who tend to get into these patterns of self-destruction, so they mistakenly make their own situations even worse. Here lies the tendency of a pitiful self rationalization of a thing that does not work at all. Sometimes it is better to swallow your pride/ego than to continue down this spiraling path which ends up spoiling everything. This is the kind of stuff that happens in the heat of the moment, in the middle of a heated debate or argument or discussion when all rationalization is thrown out of the window and we don’t stop and think about what the consequences will be in the end.
I believe it is so much wiser to try to resolve conflicts in a healthy way and we do this by learning how to deal with common emotions such as anger, hurt, sadness, frustration, heartbreak and disappointment. If you cut off your nose to spite your face, it makes it all the more impossible to work on solving any type of problem.
Finding new ways to communicate feelings is vital, so it’s possible to focus on improving relationships rather then trying to be right or prove a point that would be meaningless once the damage is done. I think it’s important to learn how to accept that we all make mistakes and then the next step in healing would be to focus on strategies to get a better understanding of the issues instead of trying to teach someone a lesson, or trying to get back at them at your own expense. Karma is real. So instead of being a jerk or behaving dumb, let’s just chose to be smart about all issues in life. Examine why we do the things we do, analyze it and come up with smart solutions.
So as Gramps is famous for saying
“think before you act, don’t act before you think”
And…. do not be
“SOS” (Stuck On Stupid)
Be smart about things is what Grandma used to say…..
And so here’s a little music to go along with my point so take a moment if you like to check them out. I enjoy listening to the wonderful music by Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes as they sing Wake Up Everybody, Marvin Gaye singing What’s going On, The Isley Brothers singing Fight the Power and last but not least the music of Public Enemy who is a hip hop group making their point in a different way. Hopefully you can see things from their different point of view.
I am kind of partial to the group “Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes” as they sing their lyrics
“The world won’t get no better if we just let it be, we have to change it.”
Wake Up Everybody!
Marvin Gaye: What’s Going On
The Isley Brothers Sing: Fight the Power (We have to stand up and fight)
Public Enemy: Fight the Power (Don’t Believe the Hype)