When I thought I was losing……….
I was actually Winning!!!!
~Dr. Steve Maraboli~
It’s strange how we humans have learned how to love ourselves. The truth is that we sometimes learn how to love ourselves through the people that have loved us in our past. We learn about love first hand through how our parents, relatives and early friends have treated us. Another thing is that practically everyone wants that someone to love us and we can get lost in that search and miss the fact that we should love ourselves before we could ever know how to love another.
Sometimes life brings us to places we wish we had never been and when I think about some of the people I became involved with who did not value me, it made me sick to my stomach. Being around people who are selfish, rude, mean, hateful, like to embarrass, berate, downgrade, try to make you feel worthless or like an outcast or outsider and frustrate us is is hard and almost like living in a freezing cold hell.
I know of loved ones who only like to send text messages and are too lazy to pick up a phone to say hello instead and some who love to use harsh language, are vulgar and use put downs on a regular basis and they think they are something wonderful. Then there are those who will sit there with you and hold long conversations on their cell phone, how rude. They cannot see what they are doing wrong and they bathe themselves in trying to figure out ways to do harm and destroy other peoples lives through gossip and forming dangerous cliques and it is really a crying shame.
These are the types who have no clue about love. They don’t know how to love anybody else nor do they love themselves. So for me it is best to get as far away from those types of people as possible. It’s best to remove them from your line of friends and sphere of influence or either stick up for yourself in letting them know their inappropriate behavior affects you and that it will not be tolerated at any cost. And the key is to say so in a respectful way.
to be continued……