Mama was famous for saying “if you love someone you have to give them wings…………..”
I found this “Let Them Go” message recently although it’s been around for a while.
Let Them Go
By T.D. Jakes
“There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you,
Let them walk.
I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you,
loving you, calling you, caring about you,
coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean, hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is
never tied to anybody who left.’’
The Bible said that they came out from us that it might be made
manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us.
(1 John 2:19)
People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay.
Let them go.
It doesn’t mean that they are a bad person; it just means that their part
in the story is over.
And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over
so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead. You’ve got to know when
You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got
the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It’s
not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means
for me to have He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t
Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!
When I read this, I began to think about all the people in my life that I have been trying my best to hold onto. Of course I told myself that trying to hold onto relatives is a good thing, because they are family and I love them. But I am starting to realize that I am not doing them any good for trying to hold onto them for that reason. Not only family but I try to stay in contact with long lost friends too. But I am starting to realize that I should let them go free as well. It’s like the saying my mother used to say. “If you love someone give them wings and if they love you enough they will find their way back to you.” Well it sounds and feels a lot easier to do if you think of it in that way. So although I was on this path I am more encouraged as of today to really give every person in my life wings after reading this. I will always send everyone love when thoughts of them surface in my mind. But now I know for sure that if they are meant to remain in my life then it’s great! If they leave it’s great too or they find their way back into my life at the right time I will be fine with what ever happens. So it feels so unselfish and positive to think this way.
So “Whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me.” This is something I truly believe. Unless you just want to force it and that’s how you tend to get in God’s way of developing your life the way He wants it to be.
I believe this applies in all situations of life and that we could be comforted in knowing through out the process of loss and grief that your life is not over. We have to let people go and move on as we are to get on with our lives and live it in the best possible way. We have to pull ourselves together and keep it moving.
I am reminded of this beautiful song “What God has for me it is for me” sung by the Miami Mass Choir. Check out this beautiful song here:
MIAMI MASS CHOIR
“What God Has For Me It Is For Me”
“LET THEM GO!”